Allow Yourself To Feel Any Emotions
Most of the time, people forget that emotions are not meant to be tamed, are not something that we need to control.
Desire, curiosity, sadness, embarrassment - they all live inside us, quitely waiting to be acknowledged. We live in a world that constantly asks ourselves to suppress the "negative" feelings, optimize and present our best selves. But what about the moments when we feel uncertain? When desire surfaces unexpectedly?
They aren't flaws, they are part of being human.
Shame is Optional
Society tells us to feel proud, confident or strong.
When you feel something else like awkwardness, sorrow, fragile, it can feel wrong. But it isn't. Your feelings are yours, not mistakes to fix.
Shame thrives in silence and it grows when we believe that our desires, vulnerabilities make us somehow less worthy.
But at Là-bas, we believe: your curiosity, your body, your every feeling - they belong to you. Not the expectations of others. When you allow yourself to feel without judgment, shame begins to lose its grip. It becomes optional.
Give Yourself Space
Allow yourself to notice without judgment.
Light a candle, pause, breathe.
Your feelings don't need action or approval. They just need acknowledgment.
It can be as simple as:
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A quiet moment before sleep, checking in with how your body feels
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A ritual that signals the day is over and it's time for yourself.
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Permission to explore what brings you pleasure, comfort, or curiosity
This is your personal, private moment. No goals. No expectation. Just you.
Accept, Don't Fight
When you stop fighting your emotions, you can:
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Feel desire, and even shame, and know that both are part of being human
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Feel unsure without apologizing, or feel embarrassed and let it be
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Explore your body and curiosity, along with any awkward or uncomfortable feelings
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Take your time, change your mind, or simply be still
It’s not about being fearless or perfect. It’s about being real with whatever you feel - the pleasant, the confusing, the shameful, and everything in between.
An Invitation
At La-bas, we believe that intimacy begins with self-acceptance. That pleasure is not something to earn, but something to honor. That your private moments deserve beauty, intention, and care.
You don't need permission to feel. You don't need to justify your emotions or apologize for your desires.
You only need to arrive - exactly as you are.
